Pre-Wedding Photo Barcelona: Body Insecurities
Worried about how your body will look in your Pre-Wedding Photo Barcelona? Self conscious that everything is going to stick out in the wrong way? Arms, Tummy, Chin, oh my! If you’re anything like me, you might have a body part you’re insecure about! Or maybe even a few of them ;_D Let’s chat about it!
I have always been super self-conscious about 3 main areas of my body (and how they made me look in photos.) My main insecurities are my arms, my tummy, and my facial imperfections. Anyone else feel me here? 🙂
For me, I’ve always felt that my arms never look like other girls. Is everyone secretly flexing all the time?? Or doing push ups while I’m asleep? Why do mine resemble a floppy pancake more than a limb?
And then, oh boy…my tummy. Ugh. The worst. Even though I have a healthy weight, I have never ever had a flat stomach. Something is always sticking out. Even if I relax my diet only for a couple of days….everything goes straight to my belly! More than once, when I wasn’t “sucking in my tummy”, I have been asked if I was pregnant. (NO.) Some forms of homicide should be legal.
And finally, my facial imperfections. I have lots of beauty marks/moles/freckles on my face. They come from my mom’s side and I’ve always had them. Always had them…and always hated them! When I was younger I used to dream of getting them removed and having a clean, “normal” looking face. I used to be so afraid that other kids would notice and tell me I was ugly.
Lol, so those are my insecurities! Haha! Anyone share any of these? Or perhaps you have your own list? I imagine so….I really think everyone does. We don’t live in a society where we are encouraged to love our bodies where they are; you can only love a future, impossible & changed version of your body. We are constantly made to feel like we aren’t beautiful enough to be photographed. When it comes to beauty…uniqueness isn’t a positive thing. We are always apologizing for a little extra squish on our bodies, or not enough squish in some areas, or for not having flawless Beyonce skin.
I know this because I’ve always felt like this…and my photography clients have always told me about their insecurities. Most women, and some men, feel ashamed of some part of their bodies. And while I feel like this is natural and to some extent unavoidable….I do want to offer a little advice as to how to not let your body insecurities affect your Pre-Wedding Photo Barcelona session.
First: Realize that comparison is the enemy of happiness.
Every time I work out and eat right, I feel so great about myself….until I look on TV or fashion blogs. Then, all of the confidence I felt gets deflated. Comparing myself to other women with different biology or different habits doesn’t motivate me to live a healthier lifestyle; it just makes me feel like I’m further from my body goals. Don’t do this! Focus on yourself and being healthy on your scale – no one else’s. If you treat your body right and feel good in your skin that confidence will shine in your Pre-Wedding photo Barcelona more than anything.
Second: Let me pose you.
Not to brag, but I’m really good at this. Haha! Trust me. I’ve been working on my craft for years. And I know how to make couples of all shapes and sizes look their best. It’s a technique that I’ve learned and practiced for over 10 years. It has worked on hundreds of couples, and it will work on you. So trust me – not that terrible voice inside your head. You will look beautiful. I will pose you to make sure you’re tummy is tucked in, your arms are awesome, and there’s no turkey double chin!
Also, if there’s a gorgeous photo of you, but I notice that you’re arm is squished against your body…do not worry. I will fix it. I will fix it with grace and reality. I will never use photoshop to change your presence and make a ‘new you’…but I will use it to fix any glaring elements that you won’t like in the photo. And I don’t care what people say. It’s what I would want my photographer to do for me. And I will do it for you.
Third: Realize that your partner does NOT want you to have a 6-pack
This one took me a while to realize. I was so convinced that any partner would obviously love me more if I was a size 2 and had walnut-cracking abs. That’s every guy’s fantasy, right? Wrong.
Enter David – the love of my life <3 <3 <3 Hehehe!
David (pronounced Dahveed), taught me that (most) guys don’t actually like a frail thin woman or a chic with crazy abs and ripped thighs. David loves me to look great and healthy…but he’s the first one to complain when I start losing my tummy….Imagine that! Something I have hated my entire life is actually something that my partner loves and finds feminine. If I would have only known that 15 years ago, maybe I could have saved myself some self-loathing along the way!
So! I hope these tips help you have a more relaxed and enjoyable Pre-Wedding Photo Barcelona session. I know it can be hard to deal with these issues and insecurities.
Know that we all have them – even Beyonce. But also know that feeling good in your skin, without comparing yourself to others, is key. Also, know that you can talk to me about any worries or big insecurities before our session. As your Barcelona Wedding Photographer, I will listen and be extra careful to respect them 🙂 I know how to pose you, so place your trust in my hands! And finally, know that your partner wants to be with you! Not some crazy Arnold Schwarzenegger version of you. Trust me!